Once a breakup happens, things can get unbearable, at least for a while. This is especially true if someone broke up with you, and even more so if you had no idea of it coming. While you feel this way though, never even consider getting back together again, you are way too confused and hurt to think clearly enough for making important decisions like this.
I know that it is difficult not to accept your ex's offer of getting back together, but you must hold off for a little while until you are better able to deal with it appropriately.
Just remember that a lot of breakups are only temporary and relationships can be fixed if you go about it the correct way, the important thing is that you want them back on your terms, not theirs, which is what will happen if you agree too readily.
Having said that, if your ex doesn't come right out and ask you back, just how can you tell if they want you back or not? Thankfully, there are telltale signs, and if you get these signals, your ex may want you back. So here are some things to watch out for.
Is your ex making contact with you, are they seeking you out? This is one of the most obvious ways you can tell if your ex wants you back. If you are not trying to meet with them or contact them in any way and it is your ex who is keeping the contact going, then you can be fairly certain that they, at the very least, miss you.
If this sounds like you, then keep playing it cool, it's you playing a little hard to get that is helping them rethink your relationship, so keep it up a little longer until you are sure that you do indeed want to get back together.
If your ex, after the breakup, wants to stay friends, then there is probably a good reason why they want to preserve the friendship. This is never a bad sign, wanting to stay friends shows that they still care about you, and although this does not necessarily mean that they want to get back together, it is very positive and allows you to use this friendly relationship to grow it back into the way it was.
Just be patient and make sure that you return the friendship, but let them take the driving seat, all you have to do is gently apply the brakes so that it does not happen too quickly.
If you have remained in good terms with your ex then you are in the best position to recapture your relationship, especially if you talk regularly.
Have they said that they miss you?
Even if all you get is only a passing comment, or small chats, it means that they have not entirely let you go, they still have some interest in you and don't want to close all forms of communication. This is an excellent sign and it is alright for you to encourage this without being too obvious though.
Remember, try and take it slowly. It is very common, especially if your relationship went on for some time, that both of you will naturally miss each other to some extent. So stay happy and try and be good company, you can use this missing each other stage to your advantage.
If your ex is still reaching out to you that's a great sign that they still have feelings for you. The exact method of contact is not that important, it does not have to be face to face.
It could be through phone calls, text messages, email, or any other means of communication, even through a mutual friend would be alright. It is important to pay attention to how much and how often they do communicate, the more regular this occurs the more interested they are in getting you back.
Your ex may be wondering if you want to get back with them, this can make them seem a little strained in your company.
Remember what asking someone, you really like, out for the very first time was like? They may very well be in this situation, they are very nervous of asking you in case of rejection. You have to read the signs, you should know your ex well enough to decide if they are being nervous or not.
It is a good sign and the best way of handling it is to remain a little distant, let them chase you until you are certain, don't just rush in, you could really spoil things if you do.
If your ex seems interested in whether you are seeing someone else or not then this is another good sign, but you must not try to make use of this as a way of making them jealous, if you are seeing someone else, then say so, but never make up an imagined person, it wont help you in the long run.
Stay truthful and true to yourself at all times, it really is in your favor even if the truth is not what you would like to say.
The way your ex acts when you are around is one of the biggest signals, this is especially true if you are in the company of others.
Do they seem anxious or nervous around you?
Do you catch them looking at you at odd moments?
Do they seem to mirror your actions, like smile when you smile, take a drink when you take one, lean forward when you lean forward?
Do they listen attentively when you are talking? These are all body language signs and they say, without any doubt, that your ex is very interested in you, so stay interesting a while longer, keep doing what you are already doing, whatever it is, it is working.
However, remember the good company bit, it is very important, and a person who is good company makes others feel relaxed and happy.
If you get these signals, your ex may want you back, so stay alert and watchful, and keep a look out for your ex displaying any of these signs, the rest is up to you.
